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|WHAT DOES BIPHOBIA LOOK LIKE?
- Assuming that everyone you meet is either heterosexual or homosexual.
- Supporting and understanding a bisexual identity for young people because you identified that way before you came to your real lesbian/gay/heterosexual identity.
- Expecting a bisexual to identify as heterosexual when coupled with the so called different gender/sex.
- Believing bisexual men spread AIDS/HIV to heterosexuals.
- Thinking bisexual people havent made up their minds.
- Assuming a bisexual person would want to fulfill your sexual fantasies or curiosities.
- Assuming bisexuals would be willing to pass as anything other than bisexual.
- Feeling that bisexual people are too outspoken and pushy about their visibility and rights.
- Automatically assuming romantic couplings of two women are lesbian, or two men are gay, or a man and a woman are heterosexual.
- Expecting bisexual people to get services, information, and education from heterosexual service agencies for their heterosexual side (sic) and then go to gay and/or lesbian service agencies for their homosexual side (sic).
- Feeling bisexuals just want to have their cake and eat it too.
- Believing that bisexual women spread AIDS/HIV to lesbians.
- Using the terms phase or stage or confused or fence-sitter or bisexual or AC/DC or switch-hitter as slurs or in an accusatory way.
- Thinking bisexuals only have committed relationships with so called different sex/gender partners.
- Looking at a bisexual person and automatically thinking of their sexuality rather than seeing them as a whole, complete person.
- Assuming that bisexuals, if given the choice, would prefer to be in an different gender/sex coupling to reap the social benefits of a so-called "heterosexual" pairing [sic].
- Not confronting a biphobic remark or joke for fear of being identified as bisexual.
- Assuming bisexual means available.
- Thinking that bisexual people will have their rights when lesbian and gay people win theirs.
- Being gay or lesbian and asking your bisexual friend about their lover or whom they are dating only when that person is the same sex/gender.
- Believing bisexuals are confused about their sexuality.
- Feeling that you cant trust a bisexual because they arent really gay or lesbian, or arent really heterosexual.
- Expecting a bisexual to identify as gay or lesbian when coupled with the same sex/gender.
- Expecting bisexual activists and organizers to minimize bisexual issues (i.e. HIV/AIDS, violence, basic civil rights, fighting the Right, military, same-sex marriage, child custody, adoption, etc.) and to prioritize the visibility of so called lesbian and/or gay issues.
- Avoid mentioning to friends that you are involved with a bisexual or working with a bisexual group because you are afraid they will think you are a bisexual.
Adapted by Lani Kaahumanu and Rob Yaeger/BiNet USA, 1996, from Rape Crisis Center of West Contra Costa County, CA, and from Lesbians: A Consciousness Raising Kit, by the Boston Lesbian Task Force, and by Building Bridges, March, 1995.
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